When it comes to relationships, men like to communicate their desires directly, but women usually don’t. Girls will rarely overtly say they’re attracted to you, they tend to be subtle about showing interest.
To learn how to tell if a woman is attracted to you, you’re going to have to become more aware of what her nonverbal communication means.
You’re about to discover the 5 most common ways in which women will show interest in you. If you notice a few of these in an interaction with a girl, there’s a good chance she’s attracted to you.
These signs mean it’s likely that a girl is attracted to you, but you can’t be 100% whether a particular girl likes you based on her nonverbal communication. Everyone is different. That’s why I’m going to show you how to know when you can escalate without a risk of upsetting the girl later in this article. With that said, let’s dive in.
1: She Holds Your Gaze
It’s definitely a good sign If a woman holds strong eye contact with you . It means she’s comfortable with you and that she likes you (on at least platonic level).
Now, strong eye contact doesn’t necessarily imply attraction, but the stronger the eye contact, the more likely it is a sign of sexual interest.
A lot of guys miss this sign because they don’t make strong eye contact themselves. If your eye contact is darting all over the place, you’re not going to notice when a woman is trying to hold strong eye contact with you.
So, if you want to be aware of this sign, you should make a point to hold strong eye contact with women you’re interested in. As a rule of thumb, you should hold eye contact until the girl looks away. That way, you’re eye contact will be strong, but you won’t be staring at her to a degree that she’s uncomfortable with.
2: She Fills Conversational Gaps By Asking You Questions
It’s a good sign if you meet a girl, you talk for a bit, and as soon as there’s a moment of silence, she fills it with questions like: “So, where are you from?” or “What do you do for a living?”
When a girl isn’t interested in you, she’ll either leave the silence hanging or use it as an excuse to end the interaction. When a girl feels a need to fill the silence with questions, it means she wants to keep talking to you.
You can be proactive about this by intentionally letting the silence hang after you finish saying something. If she fills that silence, she’s at least somewhat invested in her interaction with you. Also, letting the silence hang is a good way to get a girl to start chasing you, and it can actually increase her attraction for you. This technique kills two birds with one stone.
3: She Gives A “Green Light” When You Touch Her
If you touch a girl, say on the shoulder, and she responds by touching you back or by leaning towards you, she’s giving you a “green light“, it means she likes being touched by you.
This is a strong indication that a girl is interested in you, and because most women will wait for the man to make the first move, this is the sign that I rely on the most.
If a girl responds positively to being touched on the shoulder, you can escalate a bit further by getting in closer and holding her by the waist.
Then, if she’s still responding positively while you’re in close, you can hold strong eye contact with her. If she holds the eye contact with you, it almost always means that she wants to be kissed.
If you think about if, before you kiss someone, you’re almost always holding eye contact with them.
So you can use eye contact as a way to tell if a girl wants to be kissed. If you start leaning in for the kiss and the girl looks away, that’s fine, just take a step back and there was no harm, no foul. You’re only crossing the line if a girl tries to reject your kiss, but then you keep going in anyway and don’t show empathy.
Going in for the kiss can be nerve-wracking, but you don’t need to lean in for a kiss out of nowhere, you can escalate towards this kiss step by step. That way you can be fairly confident that the girl is on the same page as you.
When we’re attracted to someone, we tend to exaggerate how interesting they are to show them that we like them. Oftentimes, this manifests in a woman laughing a lot (even if you’re not being very funny).
Laughing is always a good sign. And if a girl laughs even when you said something that wasn’t actually funny, it’s an even better sign.
Here’s an infield clip of a girl laughing at pretty much everything I say (even though it’s not all particularly clever):
5. She Plays With Her Hair
When a woman plays with her hair, it can mean that she’s doing one of two things subconsciously:
- She’s trying to make herself look look good so that you notice how attractive she is.
- She’s feeling self-conscious about her appearance because she’s attracted in you.
To be fair though, sometimes when a woman plays with her hair, she’s just playing with her hair. But this is often a very good sign.
Wrapping Up How To Tell If A Woman Likes You
You just learned the 5 most common ways in which a woman will show her interest in you.
Of all of these signs, the most important one is that she gives you a green light when you’re physical with her.
Looking for signs that a girl is interested is useful, and it’s definitely important to be aware how a girl is feeling, but the only one of these signs that you should heavily rely on is whether she gives a green light when you’re physical.
It can be easy to miss or to misread the signs you’re getting from a girl.
Sometimes even when a girl seems uninterested, she’s just feeling nervous. The only way to find out for sure whether a girl likes you is through physical escalation.
Now, you don’t want to just randomly to make out with a girl. Start by touching her shoulder or her arm, see how she responds, and if it’s positive, you can hold her by the waist, and if she responds positively to that you can make out with her (and so on).
If at any point she moves back or seems uncomfortable, then you need to take a step back.
But if you do this step by step, there’s very little risk of offending her in any way. You’re not doing anything that’s jarring, you’re gradually escalating WITH her, as opposed to aggressively escalating ON her, which is what some guys do.